The overwhelming majority of parents strive to satisfy children’s desires and do whatever it takes to make them happy, ignoring the fact that this is an act of spoiling and they as well tend to give the whole issue a cold shoulder.
Thus the experts in the field of psychology conducted so many researches and came up ultimately with the so called ‘’ Spoiled Child Syndrome’’, the latter is characterized with a set of acts performed by the child to tell whether he is spoiled or not.
In this article Edenmoms involved those all the characteristics in form of a quiz whose result will provide you with an answer to the question ‘Am I raising a spoiled child?’
The child is polite with other people but you never hear “thank you” addressed to you.
If they behave politely around people and show gratitude whenever necessary, but never do that to their close family member, they are probably spoiled. It’s not a deliberate behaviour in most of the cases because they think that family don’t do favours for each other’s, they rather do what they must do and as a result there is no need to say Thank You.
This kind of kids is more likely to fail in establishing relationships.
The child can’t deal with simple household chores.
Your responsibility as a parent is to show them how to become independent. Children can do some simple household chores when they are little and then can perform more and more prominent chores as they grow up like: doing their beds, washing up, tiding the room…etc.
but if yours has never helped around the house or isn’t even willing to do so and keeps making excuses while you are doing all of the chores, this kid is spoiled. Records show that most 3-12 boys and girls around the world are dedicating about 3 hours each week to chores.
This will definitely help them in the future to get things done perfectly and with much experience.
The child doesn’t get along with peers and is sure that they behave the wrong way.
From an early age teach your child the value of sharing with others and the fact that they have to give and take stuff from people. Because it’s highly crucial that they have a sense of empathy to the needs of the other part or the other part will get bored of playing with them and will skip hanging out with them. If you notice this, consider keeping an eye on your child’s attitude towards their friends and fix the problem before it’s too late.
The child doesn’t like activities that involve competition.
Most of parents hold the stereotype that ‘my son must always win and get awarded unless they will be sad or traumatized ‘as to not get psychic issues in the future. Well this nonsense! Psychologists claim that the fact a kid who has always been regarded as champion is the one who will get traumatized when he faces real life as he grow up and figure out that is isn’t the champion he used to think he is.
Sometimes protecting your son is the wrong thing to do so you need to show him the dark sides of life and that he mustn’t win all the time.If your child talks to you –as his father or mother- with no respect or consideration whatsoever don’t blame him as if it was his fault because it’s yours? Remember when you didn’t set limits between you, when you didn’t act strictly towards him , that has made his sense of parental authority rather low and he no longer respect you or consider your power upon him; As a result, he disrespects and belittle you.
Surprisingly, the child has low self-esteem and lacks confidence.
There’s also that kind of parents who want the world to orbit around their son. So they tend to boast their deeds and show them off. Psychologists has actually studied this case and they call it The Me, Me, Me Epidemic, which has been discovered and published in a book by Amy McCready, it says that particular kind of parents kill their kids’ confident or any hint of self-esteem and when they grow up to face real world they get perplexed as society doesn’t treat them the same way they are used to be treated.
The child wants to occupy all of your free time.
Another treat of spoiled children is that they are so stuck to their parents and want their interest to evolve around them. Well that’s ok, but you should also explain to them that each one has their own business and that he must give them space.
The child doesn’t recognize authority and often argues with adults.
Those parents who always protect the child and make him right whatever mistake they committed are definitely spoiling him especially if they are always putting the blame on the other part and not seriously discussing the issue with the kid behind the scenes when it’s done. In this case, they are teaching the child that getting away with their mistakes is so easy and the blame can be normally put on others.
The child doesn’t understand the value of money.
Spoiled kids don’t understand the value money; they want to buy whatever they can lay eyes on especially with all those catchy advertisements which convinces them that they need everything and that product is cool. Here the parent’s role is to explain that it’s never easy to earn money so spending it must be rational. Moreover, one doesn’t have to always say yes to their requests, we all agree that it’s good to make them happy but at times say NO as well in order to prevent them from asking for unaffordable stuff in the future regardless the economic situation. A recently conducted study claims that spoiled children will definitely face financial issues when they grow up because they haven’t been taught the real value of money and how to spend it ;as a result, most of them end up in debt.
The child often complains that they’re bored.
In their bedroom spoiled toddlers have tones of games, toys and all means of entertainment; however, they are always bored and want somebody else to be their entertainer. Getting bored is a normal feeling but even a 1-year-kid can concentrate on a task for about fifteen minutes so that they can amuse themselves by the time they reach 3 years old. The thing is that providing everything for a child ruins him.
The child can’t control their emotions.
When it comes to emotions, spoiled kids are drama queens. They suffer from mood swings, behave in a childish way, can’t control themselves and play up even though they are old. They face difficulty in managing anger, regarding their behaviours or even expressing feelings because they only way they know about expressing is through drama.